Today, there are many children who are having temper tantrums and misbehaving and very often their parents are not aware of that and cannot recognize that issue.
In today’s article we are going to explain and warn all parents about thefact that if they don’t react properly on such little behaviors and actions, over time that may bring about certain repercussions in the children’s live.
Mrs. Emma Jenner is famous woman who is well-known for her show on TLC “Take Home Nanny”, in which she had revealed 5 specific behaviors of current parents that sooner or later would suffer some consequences.
According to Emma, it is crucial the parents to start demanding more from their children; that means the parents should expect more from their children. For example, parents can include them in their endeavors and difficulties. To give the children less and thus to force the children to get themselves going. Various challenges also will have positive impact.
FIVE ERRORS PARENTS NOWADAYS REPEATEDLY MAKE:
YOU´RE AFRAID OF YOUR CHILDREN
Example: If the child requires to drink milk from some different cup, and the usual one, many parents make mistake and immediately start looking for some another cup instead of ignoring their wish. The reason why the parents agree to chance the cup is fear that the child will cry and will refuse to eat.
As Emma explains, that is a huge mistake. Why are you afraid? Is your child the person that should be in command of the both of you? Parents should let the children cry and simply someplace else if you don’t want to hear that. The parent should never raise the children indulging every single one of the wishes along the way. It is important to think about what message you´re going to send to your children if you give all it wants, just because your child is crying. You need to do something about that.
Making excuses (“That´s how children are”)
Parents should never justify the misbehavior and outbursts of their children in public. The parents should never use the phrase “That´s how children are” as on that way they are motivating the children to continue with the misbehaving and be irresponsible.
Emma explains that children are capable to do much more than their parents can expect. For instance, respect, manners, generosity, everyday domestic work and self-control. Do you think that your child can’t set the table by himself unless you order him to?
Your child certain can do that. The parent should raise the expectations they have for their children, as on that way you will teach them how to behave properly.
You don’ let others scold them
This is really bad. Teachers and professors are supposed to scold our children when they behaved improperly.
Parents should be aware of the fact that the teachers are their eyes and ears when the children are not in your sight. Unfortunately, today it is nearly impossible teachers or an employee to scold or to gives a piece of their mind to a child, as majority parents easily gets mad; in fact, many parents are not even interested to find out what actually happened to cause this kind of a reaction from a superior. If parents act like this, you basically are sending your children message to misbehave and neither you, nor the teacher, or employee will not do anything to stop the child.
Children come in the first place
It is quite understandable by nature’s work that we parents tend to look after the children, sometimes even too much. According to Emma, regardless of the fact that it is good for evolution, parents should create a timetable adaptable to children’s needs, like the food, clothes, nursing and others.
According to Emma, today many parents are taking it to another level, by subjecting their own obligations and mental health to children, in order to satisfy all their needs and requests. Parents should be aware of the fact that they simply can’t give to their children everything they want, when they want. Parents can’t burst out running for everything the child asks for. Keep in mind that such behavior may take your peace but also your health away, as that is really stressful and above all, that will indicate to your children that they are the ones that are in control.
Unless if there’s some emergency of some kind, nothing will happen to your child just because you decided to take some time for yourself. Nothing bad will happen if you say – NO.
They use to take advantage of the shortcuts
Emma explains that today many parents resort to a series of shortcuts just to avoid their children getting bored and thus start misbehaving. For that purpose, parents buy various electronic devices and use them whenever they´re waiting for a doctor’s appointment, waiting for a bus, boarding a plane or doing some daily duties such as cooking and cleaning the house. Parents need to teach their children how to be patient. Children need to learn how to amuse themselves on their own. Another very important thing that parents should learn the children is that the food won’t be ready and served whenever they want it to be. Children can help in the kitchen, not with actual cooking, but with doing the dishes or to set the table. The parent shouldn’t set off running like crazy just because the child fell over. It is particularly important to let the child to figure out how to get up on their own. On that way the child will become much stronger and independent.